Lisa's Advice

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Advice for new cross-dressers (male-to-female) who want to go out in public for the first time as a woman.

For those cross-dressers who still don't go out in public, their first public appearance might seem daunting, complicated, embarrassing and might even feel like an epic fail is around the corner. Rest assured that every crossdresser felt this way when it was their time to "come out" (or go out?) – and so, as this is a common problem, here are some tips on how to go out in public for the first time as a man dressed as a woman.

Confidence: Don’t show fear

People are busy with their lives and they don’t pay attention to details if you don’t give them reasons to – so act confident and normal, make it seem you do that every day and people won’t fuss over it. Also, be confident. You may fool a lot of people just because they won’t notice the small things. Many people don't notice the small things in people they do not know. If you show fear, people will start noticing something strange and will start analyzing the details, so try your best to remain confident. A few outings might help you decide if going out as a crossdresser is for you.

You’re not doing it for them; you’re doing it for you!

Even though you do everything right, there are still some people that you might know that will see you and your crossdressing lifestyle. When this happens, remember that you are not doing it for them, you’re doing it for you, so it doesn’t matter what they think. Your lifestyle should reflect who you are and people who care about you will accept that. It might require education from you to them, but that should be a blessing, not a burden. Someone who wants to be educated about something that's still considered taboo, like crossdressing, is trying to understand. Isn't that what we hope for?

A nice smile is the best jerk deterrent:

If you smile a lot and treat everyone in a nice and polite manner, people are less likely to be mean to you. If you become a diva and try to be arrogant and the center of attention – people will try to have a go at you. Be confident, but be nice…and smile! If you're ever in harm's way either call 911, run away, fight dirty if defending yourself, or whatever "fight or flight" situation works best for your demeanor. I don't condone violence, but there are situations where defending yourself might be necessary. Please don't let this deter you, I just want to be blunt and give my opinions.